By Sanjib Mukherjee,
When you truly learn to connect with your power within, I truly believe you gain access to an unlimited resource of love and compassion, which enables you to unconditionally love on a universal scale. Yet frequently the notion of finding one soul mate in this lifetime seems to rear its head over and over again. What are your experiences and views on this sensitive topic?
I truly believe that relationships are all about transactions… You fulfill some and you create some more debts…. And until those are sorted, you keep coming across that ‘soul’… Every soul you owe or owes you any transaction is linked to you by that… ‘Soul mates’ are just ways to understand the biggest truth of Love… Technically nothing like that exists… Its just our foolish human emotions making us believe in them!
TILL UNIVERSE IS THERE …TILL HUMANITY IS THERE…LOVE IS ALSO POSSIBLE …AND CAN BE FELT TO THE SOME LUCKY SOULS…WHO ARE PURE AND LOVING THAT WE DONT HAVE CHOICE EXCEPT LOVING THEM…OUR INSIDE LOVE ATTRACTS THE LOVE OF SO MANY AROUND US…THE FEEL OF LOVE AND COMPASSION WE CANT RESRICT THAT TO BOUNDARIES OF JUST OUR OWN FAMILY TO JUST OUR OWN GROUP…THIS IS SO AMAZING AND IN SO MUCH ABUNDANCE THE WE DONT HAVE EVEN IDEA OT THAT..AS IT GROWS MORE WHILE GIVING..IT IS NOT LIKE MONEY ..IT IS LIKE A PRECIOUS TREASURE OF UNIQUE KIND AND NEVER ENDS IT IS IMMORTAL and NEVER DIES…EVEN WE WIL DIE BUT WE CAN BE REMEMBERRD BY OUR LOVE THAT WE GIVE TO OTHERS IN OUR LIFE TIME…WE STIL BE REMEMBERED BY OUR ACTS OF KINDNESS ..AND CARING HEART FULL OF LOVE FOR ALL…
I think when you meet your soul then you have met your soul mate otherwise you keep falling in love again and again either with some person or some object or some situation or some event
Humm! I think we can fall in love again and again till we find real soul-mate! Ha ha ha!
Love is an incredible feeling that everyone deserves to have in their life.No one can tell you if you are in love or not because only you know there is no time limit on love. you might love some one after one week or may be after one year.L OVE IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE THATS WHY IT IS UNIQUE.
soul mate or soulmates……………………………………………………………that is the question n to each to his own till it achives creativity n positive vibes all around
Wow ! What a topic…
Love is a feelings from within….unlimited, no boundaries, no rules, no regulations, just fall in love again and again and feel the happiness and joy within !!! no boundaries ….. Limitless….
Wow… Just keep falling and rising in love not to get stuckup…..
We do fall in love again and again, with our parents, siblings, frnds etc We also love them don’t we???? but as far as a soulmate is concerned threre is only1…… so keep up with the trial and error method and you’l find him/her. i’ve found mine ,good luck 2 others……
Absolutely!! Love being our very nature ,the connection, makes love flow to every nook and corner!!There is then love, love and only love!!
yes we can rise in love again and again….its our very nature…sanjib…
Does the question arise from a sense of surrender, or ownership… determines the answer.
if a person is a “giver” then she/he can find many soulmates in one life time..but if one focuses only on “receiving”,then one too,would be too many….!!!
-love is unlimited-one can love many people and again and again-every relationship s unique-and one can love different aspects of each individually-there is no such person with whom you feel like he/she s your soul mate-you can feel deeply for someone,likes etc-but none can understand another fully–
Without being hypocritic I would like to fall in love or rather rise in love again and again. Love is something which happens it is not done. Its not an action its all about feeling. Love is like river where its going to flow we dont know. Its very difficual to control thel flow of our love. How can we control? And even we dont know its direction.
And we live in a highly hypocritical society. In India incident of ” honour killings” and “khap panchayat” are example of our intolerence. Lovers are being killed for the sake of so called pride.
Youth don’t have the right to love and choose a life partner. Its insensible to guide a person in his love affairs. And society is doing the same thing in India. You have to love in this particular caste. You have to marry in this particular religion these all things are rubbish.
Sorry for the deviation i simply want to say that Love is a matter of heart and it does not understand any logic, rule or pre-established norms. Heart does not understand the language of society or courts. Where it will fall or rise in love we don’t know.
And as i know human emotion and feeling, honestly its very very difficult to control. Those youths who are being killed by the so called “contractor of society” they also had tried to control their feelings and emotion but would have unable to control it. History is full of these incidents. But love affairs will continue……
“Don’t lose your direction…don’t hurt anyone. We should feel love for everyone…boundless love! Everyone is but our own reflection…a part of us. When there is no separation between us all, when we are all but one, then this love is for ourselves. We should never be possessive about anyone because that is what chokes and stifles the divinity in a relationship. Love not one but many….there is nothing wrong with it.”
one point i think you may not agree in this modernised world yet i wud like to share that in olden times…Everyone must be knowing of DRAUPADI…SHE HAD FIVE HUSBANDS..so sometime i wonder whom she loved more…YUDISHTHAR,BHEEM,ARJUN..OR NAKUL AND SEHDEV…I know some people make fun of that…but this is a question that all were perfect in their own ways…one was in truth..one in courage..one all rounder ..other soft hearted and so on..
so sometime all this shows the qualities that she expected in her husband but NO ONE IN THIS WORLD IS SO PERFECT…that he or she can have so much of al perfection in world…so al fieve made a perfect combination of all the qualities for her…SO CAN ANYONE TELL THAT WHOM SHE USED TO LOVE MORE WHO WAS HER PERFECT SOUL MATE…
I cant tell I CANT GUESS…but i just realise that A WOMAN HAS SO MUCH OF LOVE INSIDE HER THAT SHE CAN GIVE LOVE AND SINCERITY TO MORE THAN ONE PERSON…WIHOUT EVEN COMPROMISING ONE PERCENT …I MEAN DRAUPADI CUD LOVED ALL BY HER 100% DEDICATION AND LOVE …
AH I KNOW THIS CULTURE OR SUCH ASPECT DONT CARRY ANY WIGHTAGE NOW OR BUT THIS WAS JUST TO PUT MY STRESS ON THE OCEAN OF LOVE IN A WOMAN’S HEART THAT CAN LOVE WHOLE UNIVERSE…
EACH HAVING A UNIQUES PLACE IN HER HEART NO ONE FEEL THAT HE OR SHE GETTING LESS FROM HER..IF SHE TRULY A LOVING SOUL AND HAS REALISED THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE WITHIN…
yes but only when u meet ur soul can u meet ur soul mate otherwise u fall in love again again either some person or some object or some situation or some eventor as u said when u connect to some power deep within u become so focussed
You may fall in love time & again..there is no limit ….
BUT soul-mate is ONLY and only one…………!!!!…….. If you search a little you will find that “no replacement” and “not for used & thrown purpose” are stamped somewhere on your soul mate….you just need to explore!
WE RISE IN LOVE WHEN WE FIND OUR SOUL MATES AND IN-OTHER CASE WE FALL IN LOVE
Soul Mate or Sole Mates?
The concept of the soul mate is thousands of years old and probably was originated by the Greek philosopher Plato. Plato described a soul mate as the person’s “other half” that has been split from him. The quest of life is to find your missing half. People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with. Is there just one person who can, “complete us.”
Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation. The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
Now coming on the point of soul mate in marital relationship and finding your better half. Frank Pittman said, “Nothing has produced more unhappiness than the concept of the soul mate.” I do agree with Frank on this matter. Married to Pradeep for 19 years now, I can tell you that there are no perfect partners out there. Not me. Not my husband. Yet it is a wonderful and excellent marriage. We are “The Best Friends” .
Who should I call my soul-mate? Lord Krishna, Swami Vivekananda, Sri-Sri Ravi Shankar ji, my husband, my father (my hero), my daughters (they are angel), my father-in-law (a generous human being or me myself and many more They all complete me…Still confused.
Can We Truly Fall In Love Again & Again?”
We all are aware of our intrinsic powers and reservoir of love within ourselves. Though we all are one consciousness underlying the entire universe, it’s also true that we all are expressions of the same Divine consciousness in different forms.
That’s why where there’s “Purush”, there’s “Prakruti”. That’s why even Shiva, who’s in meditation/ Samadhi all the time, has Parvati as his soul mate. That’s why Radha Krishna’s love is eternal (even though Krishna had many wives, including Rukhmini and Sataybhama). That’s the reason why Laxmi takes birth again and again when Vishnu comes on earth. So yes, there’s one soul-mate, who is made for you.
Though I strongly believe in the one soul-mate concept, there could be variations to it. Remember- truth is spherical and contradictory? There are “mahatmas” like Hanuman who are “ajanma bramhachari” or who prefer to express love only in the form of devotion to the Divine and to no other soul. For them there cannot be one soul-mate; for them devotion itself is love and that’s all that there is.
Manifestation or expression totally depends on your thoughts and beliefs. Hence, if both souls strongly love each other and believe the other soul to be their soul-mate, they will be born again and again as soul-mates.
Many people believe in multiple soul-mates- so it could be your father/sister/ brother/ son; anyone whom you love dearly. They believe that a group of soul-mates move together in the cycle of birth and death. So if in one birth a person is another’s son, in other birth it could be his/ her father etc.
Though we all are made of love, expressions of love are different. Your love for your mother is different than your love for your partner. So I would sum it up as it depends on what you believe in. However, whether you have soul-mate or not, your love for Divine will ensure you meet your “soul” or “self”.
love is nature of human being.nobody can deny this. a sense of true love comes when you feel you are being accompanied by some thing always ,Like love of guru which last life time and in all condition. love of guru or master is beyond any defination and you have to get experience of it.. all other love are unfortunately connected with day today expectations and experience .
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Yes, its possible to fall in love again and again …… but each time you fall in love, its more intelligently and sensibly in love.. what iI mean by this is that u do fall in love, but yet be careful about what to do or not to do in your next relationship and maybe this happens because you havn’t met ur SOULMATE.. if thatat is done then thngs fall in place ……. then its highly improbable that u wil fall in love again ….
You can be in love with many things or many people but a soul mate is just one..the feelings you have for the soul mate are just for him/her…you dont feel that way for anyone else.
Yes we can fall in love over and over again,because thats our basic nature.love is unconditional,our heart and soul are so pure in origin dat they just know to love a person unconditionally
…If we love someone keeping conditions then its not love,just selfishness…love can be loving someone even without getting love in return.love is not lovin someones body…its far of more bigger n wider than dat,its all bout loving someone as a soul.Love can be lovin anyone
…not necessary be it ur partner.Love is also bout lovin ur mom,dad,ur family,ur frnds,lovin people as a part of dis world or as kids of thed 1 mighty lord.
Pray that LOVE always exist in this world…
Love yourself…it’s a way to appreciate HIM!!:)”
hey once you fall in love, there is no way to come out of it. if you fall in love again and again, then there is something other than love is happening with you. if you really has fallen in love, then there is no limit on soul-mates.
remember love is not specific phenomenon. you cannot love specific soul-mate.. if you love your husband , at the same time you love your children, parents , friends .. your pets .. your garden with same taste of love. so this question is totally confusing and contradictory. if you really fall in love you cannot fall into it again. it just like if once you reached at sun, do you believe night will come!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Belief in one soul-mate surely help you believe all soul-mates and love could happen then at this point. So do not worry, let it happen its on way… just say “I love all forever”.
we all know that our basic nature is love & all other emotions that we feel are distortions of love….whether we agree or deny our search for soulmate ends with marriage.we often think that our spouse is our soulmate whether what we feel towards them is love or its distortion
Just read something that i would like to quote here..”We coe to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Lets be in the ocean of love, let it flow in to your life on its own time and way..again and again, every moment of life …. do not restrict it .. just flow into the wave of love…feel the love within….limitless….:)
Love is God s gift to mankind …for every heart is in God’ s hand …love is something natural …it is not indecent as far as our motives are good nd the relationship does not cause any friction between spouses , love has to be taken in a broader perspective
….if a person is happy nd contented with any relationship then he/she has the right to enjoy it but shud show restraints….the aim is to be happy nd feel contented bcoz a contented person could help others achieve bliss …
Completely agree with you…
Beautiful morning all my friends. We are all soulmates connected as one. I guess we all have a definition of what a soulmate is within our individual belief and experience. Whatever that is is right for you in your moment within your journey.
In truth nothing is beyond ourselves that can make us fearful or loving because nothing is beyond us – everything is part of us as one. So embrace the beauty of one loving consciousness-source-God and experience how extraordinary each ordinary moment is. Love to you all ♥
true love is just once in your life.one sided love.fails
one can fall in love again bt u can not try to do love again with someone it will not happened. bt some day some time one person will smoothly come to ur life and you simply can not deny her/him and u’ll first share your life events with her and after some time y’ll feel ur in love
… with that passion…it just happens.. and moreover this second love may be more heart touchinig…. u’ll feel very comfort and light with her/him and also all that things that would have feel with your first love….
IF WE CAN CHOOSE WHOM TO LOVE THEN LIFE WOULD BE MUCH MORE SIMPLER…BUT THEN LESS MAGICAL…SO I BELIEVE MAGICAL LIFE IS MUCH BETTER THAN A SIMPLE LIFE…
I think “Soul-Mate” can be only one…
Yup, in concern of “Soul-Mate” there is an “Exception”, If someone is not committed somewhere else, then he can fall in love more than one time in search of his true “Soul-Mate”.
And ‘Love’ in the concern of humanity, we can fall in love again & again, we can make new friends, new relations. Our belongingness with everyone is also a form of love. It’s a beautiful part of our life & we can say “Love Moves The World.”
Rest everything has been named “Affection” “Flirt” n Blah Blah…
soul- mate….!! love…..!!very lucky & blessed are those who are able to find, in one lifetime….!!
Richard Bach beautifully describes a soulmate:
“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be.
Each unveils the best part … See Moreof the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise….When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
All said and read above: this is what I believe and experience: Starting from the origin of Soul.. Like a pack of cards God is constantly dealing them. But each pack with its its own pattern. So like when the correct sequence is together we have a a winning combination !
Likewise all souls have a certain blue print and each blue print with a winning combination. Combinations can be of two, three, four or five. Yes we can more than one SM. No matter where, how or when.. WHEN the combination occures the soul mate union happens to an electrifying magnitude. However.. soul mates are not neccssary spouses as the winning ratio is like EURO Millions..! One needs to have receptive antena to even acknowledge the resonatery signals.
Only very fortunate ones are dealt the right cards but out of those only a few will acknowledge and understand the divine principal of love.
Chemical reaction can happen any moment. Compassion is highest form of love.
My personal experience:
The connect is what matters, the intensity of it!!
The connect which we feel that we can be contended, thru out our life. We will feel, that we were born for this and this feeling does not dilute as days move on.
We will be happy to give give and give to the rest of the world because we have our heartful and we dont require more from anyone else. That makes us yet more powerful, since our expectations with the rest of the world for love is almost nil.
We will be rich in love and we will be happy to distribute our richness.
If we look at our communication transactions and the structural analysis (refer Transactional Analysis). We will be filled with positive strokes and we will distribute positive strokes.. inturn making us human beings who care more.
the number of positive strokes we get from our soul mate will be more than anyone else. A smile could give us a heartful, leave alone smile.. A LOOK directly into our soul mates eye will fill up our stoke bank.
With a soul mate. the connect is so intense that its difficult to explain in words.
It really needs to be felt. It will be at the apex. a sheer bliss.
If one dilutes it to multiple soul connections, the intensity surely reduces. Focus gets distributed. Reception reduces.. Time slice needs to be allotted, we will end up calling every connection of ours love. We cannot compare this love with our soul mate with any other connections.. its so far far ahead. We loose ourselves in it. We dont just fall in love.
We dont give in, we dont give out, we just give ourselves fully.
Its not just about our completion, We rise higher as human beings who will help others without any expectations. After the connect, Will not look for multiple input points to receive.
With the rest of the world, we will be emotionally intelligent and focused on activities we really want to do. Emotionally weak might be really harmful at times.
My focus on other things was much much more once I found my soul mate.
in one sentence.. Its a bliss.. a love much much higher than a normal love.
and life moves effortlessly in a flow. and the soul mate becomes one with you.
We do forget our life and focus on certain things completely. We call it passion. passion for singing, passion for art, passion for work. Rather being selfless, rather loose oneself completely and become the passion.
In this case, we dont love. We become the LOVE. Just be, there is no need for doing anything. Everything happens automatically.
Its intense.. Very Very Very Intense.
Yes its possible 2 fall in lov again n again … bt 1 falls intelligently in lov …. 1 avoids d mistakes etc … n by the very fact dat u fall in Lov again means that U havnt found Ur Soulmate” …
By intelligently it means, lov in school, college, n later life is diffrnt …… u kno by thn how 2 go abt in a relship etc …… u tend not 2 commit d same mistake etc ….
If
you develop love truly great,
rid of the desire to hold and possess.
That strong, clean love untarnished by lust,
that love which does not expect to be repayed,
that love which is firm but not grasping,
enduring but not tied down,
gentle and settled,
diamond-hard but unhurting,
helpful but not interfering,
cool and refreshing,
giving more than taking,
dignified but not proud,
soft but not weak,
that love which leads to Enlightenment,
then you will be washed of all ill-will.
The answer to every question is Love. The solution to every problem is
Love.
The response to every
request -is Love.
Surrender
yourself to the power of Love. Be consumed by its
raging fire.
Throw
yourself into its ocean. Love everything and everyone. At
all times,
in all places and in all ways. Awaken to the only true reality. Bow
before
its alter. Every song is a song of Love. Every dance is a dance of
Love.
The message of every prophet, sage and avatar is Love.
When
afraid ~Love.
When
in doubt ~Love
When confused ~Love.
Embrace
the healing power of Love.
For Love is the only way. All ways
are the
way of Love. For ultimately every cry is the cry of Love or
the cry for Love…
Love, Love, Love and then Love some more. Love
eventually catches everyone, no
matter where you are. It is simple,
yet so profound. Just Love. Let Love flow
through you. Let Love
consume you. Let Love become one with you and you become
one with
Love. Allow yourself to be woven into its pattern until you and Love
are
One!
just something i had read…
WOW! what a topic….
i believe that we can fall in love again & again… its true…
but about soulmate…. that’s a question mark?
“There is nothing good or bad until you think it so”
I would say that I have lost it, but realize that it has never left me nor faded. I have tried many times to describe this love to friends and family, but could not find sufficient words to express how it feels. There are so many forms of loving another person, or pet, yet this kind(pure) love is set apart…and it is possible that not everyone is so blessed as to find it in their lifetime.
I don’t share very much in common with my true love, which, along with my fear of commitment, is why I began to believe that we were not right for each other.
I left my pure love for this wrong love because it appears to make more logical sense, and I have been trapped in misery for over a year now because I am physically and mentally addicted to one, but my soul is married to the other. I mourn daily for my true love, but do not know how or if I should end the relationship with my new love.
If you are blessed enough to find your pure love, do not let your mind ruin it. I cannot imagine a greater tragedy other than rejection of God and/or suicide.
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