Comments on: Question: “How Do I Cope With The Death Of A Loved One?” http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:21:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Rekha Malhotra http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-2173 Rekha Malhotra Sun, 23 May 2010 17:44:24 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-2173 So nice of you giving us directions and knowledge to be able to cope up with different things in life with your thoughts and articles.... considering each and every aspect regarding our roles and emtions both...for success carrer wise or intellectual enhancement wise... but today you have touched that topic that is most touching ..as one person adjusts make compromises, sometimes hurt or good makes his way through life as closed ones are their for support but losing someone very close to you...shatters completely any one..especially wen closed is eithr parent or life partner..becos these two losses one cant take it as easy like other losses.. this affect the whole life further..giving your own examplse you make easy for ignorant ppl like to understand easly..what u want to convey..this is very nice article giving strength to cope up wid greatest loss yet not being shattered urself...and by reading this we can also realise that it is universal truth of birth and death ...we are not the only one who came to this world and we are not the only one who lost one of our closed one. I want to say one coment by guruji today that PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL..I REALLY LIKED THIS..N APPRECIATED..have lot to say but i think i have already writen so much...just this I love reading your thoughts.. CARE N LOVE FROM REKHA..... So nice of you giving us directions and knowledge to be able to cope up with different things in life with your thoughts and articles…. considering each and every aspect regarding our roles and emtions both…for success carrer wise or intellectual enhancement wise…

but today you have touched that topic that is most touching ..as one person adjusts make compromises, sometimes hurt or good makes his way through life as closed ones are their for support but losing someone very close to you…shatters completely any one..especially wen closed is eithr parent or life partner..becos these two losses one cant take it as easy like other losses..

this affect the whole life further..giving your own examplse you make easy for ignorant ppl like to understand easly..what u want to convey..this is very nice article giving strength to cope up wid greatest loss yet not being shattered urself…and by reading this we can also realise that it is universal truth of birth and death …we are not the only one who came to this world and we are not the only one who lost one of our closed one.

I want to say one coment by guruji today that PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL..I REALLY LIKED THIS..N APPRECIATED..have lot to say but i think i have already writen so much…just this I love reading your thoughts..

CARE N LOVE FROM REKHA…..

]]> By: Geeta Sharma http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-2150 Geeta Sharma Fri, 21 May 2010 09:43:15 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-2150 Hi sanjib,It was really very touching.I lost my father two years back and there's not even a single day goes when I don't remember him.Your blog is really very good.Thanks. Hi sanjib,It was really very touching.I lost my father two years back and there’s not even a single day goes when I don’t remember him.Your blog is really very good.Thanks.

]]> By: Sanjay Saxena http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1963 Sanjay Saxena Wed, 19 May 2010 07:52:06 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1963 Hey Sanjib, I am visiting your blog for the first time. Thank you for sharing such beautiful thoughts. I m sure that I shall be visiting your blog regularly now. Thanks once again ... :) Hey Sanjib, I am visiting your blog for the first time. Thank you for sharing such beautiful thoughts. I m sure that I shall be visiting your blog regularly now. Thanks once again … :)

]]> By: Meena Kumar http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1790 Meena Kumar Mon, 17 May 2010 15:18:08 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1790 hey sanjib i missed out on this--yes noone can replace the place of the near one who s no more-but we shud subconsciously try and make d relationship complete in our mind-n feel yes whatever we shared will b remembered by us-n to forgive yrself if u have done sumthin wrong to d person etc-to close d relationship with a gud memory---thats wat i feel sanjib-- hey sanjib i missed out on this–yes noone can replace the place of the near one who s no more-but we shud subconsciously try and make d relationship complete in our mind-n feel yes whatever we shared will b remembered by us-n to forgive yrself if u have done sumthin wrong to d person etc-to close d relationship with a gud memory—thats wat i feel sanjib–

]]> By: Sanjib Mukherjee http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1717 Sanjib Mukherjee Fri, 14 May 2010 07:58:55 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1717 Smitha...thanks:) Smitha…thanks:)

]]> By: Smitha Sridharamurthy http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1716 Smitha Sridharamurthy Fri, 14 May 2010 07:58:37 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1716 Sanjib, your blog is really good one and it came to me as a timely help.... Thank you.... Sanjib, your blog is really good one and it came to me as a timely help…. Thank you….

]]> By: Mambakkam Ramanujam Sundar http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1714 Mambakkam Ramanujam Sundar Fri, 14 May 2010 06:33:16 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1714 nice nice

]]> By: Sitha Sabesh http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1713 Sitha Sabesh Fri, 14 May 2010 06:31:35 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1713 good work good work

]]> By: Geethanjali Rao http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1707 Geethanjali Rao Thu, 13 May 2010 22:42:48 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1707 Very apt, Sanjib. Would like add: all sorrow arises from our attachment to our 'self'. If we are able to detach our 'self' from the emotion and just observe it in an impersonal way, we can actually see the emotion rising and subsiding, like waves in the ocean. We can observe that eventually its hold on us reduces to the extent that we are able to detach oueselves from it. This is a skill that needs to be practiced at all times, not only at times of sorrow but also during the onslought of any intense emotion like fear, anger, envy etc. With practice, we can perfect the skill until nothing can touch us any more. Very apt, Sanjib.
Would like add: all sorrow arises from our attachment to our ‘self’. If we are able to detach our ‘self’ from the emotion and just observe it in an impersonal way, we can actually see the emotion rising and subsiding, like waves in the ocean. We can observe that eventually its hold on us reduces to the extent that we are able to detach oueselves from it.
This is a skill that needs to be practiced at all times, not only at times of sorrow but also during the onslought of any intense emotion like fear, anger, envy etc. With practice, we can perfect the skill until nothing can touch us any more.

]]> By: Eve http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1704 Eve Thu, 13 May 2010 13:32:31 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1704 It is true, that healing takes time and everyone deals with the passing of loved ones with the tools that are known and available to them. Whether it is religious rituals or other activities, we need time to adjust to the new reality of not being able to experience the person in the physical form. To call the point of view logical would be inacurate, but rather to call it something that resonates with you. This activity does not need to be measured by others, it is as personal as your connection with the individual, therefore there is no prescription, but guidelines and points of referance. Much like the entire spiritual process of discovering yourself and the world around is a personal journey. Finding the wisdom in aincient scripts, modern day tools or people around- are here to assist us in this process. The feeling of being alone and left alone is as much of our physical nature as any bodily sensation, but realization of this as a limited and temporary process is a step to discovering a larger view. This is what the scripts try to convey to us and we refer to them again and again. We are not alone, we are togerher. Peace and love to all, Eve It is true, that healing takes time and everyone deals with the passing of loved ones with the tools that are known and available to them. Whether it is religious rituals or other activities, we need time to adjust to the new reality of not being able to experience the person in the physical form. To call the point of view logical would be inacurate, but rather to call
it something that resonates with you. This activity does not need to be measured by others, it is as personal as your connection with the individual, therefore there is no prescription, but guidelines and points of referance. Much like the entire spiritual process of discovering yourself and the world around is a personal journey.
Finding the wisdom in aincient scripts, modern day tools or people around- are here to assist us in this process. The feeling of being alone and left alone is as much of our physical nature as any bodily sensation, but realization of this as a limited and temporary process is a step to discovering a larger view. This is what the scripts try to convey to us and we refer to them again and again.
We are not alone, we are togerher.
Peace and love to all,
Eve

]]> By: Sita Bhola http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1703 Sita Bhola Thu, 13 May 2010 12:39:01 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1703 THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VERY GOOD PIECE..... THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VERY GOOD PIECE…..

]]> By: Neelima Kulkarni http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1702 Neelima Kulkarni Thu, 13 May 2010 12:38:42 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1702 Sanjib This is absolutely true. I have always believed that the soul never dies.Its difficult to cope with somebody's death in family but when u realise that the soul is alive its only the body that is gone it gives us immense strength to live. Very good article. Sanjib This is absolutely true. I have always believed that the soul never dies.Its difficult to cope with somebody’s death in family but when u realise that the soul is alive its only the body that is gone it gives us immense strength to live. Very good article.

]]> By: Sita Bhola http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1701 Sita Bhola Thu, 13 May 2010 12:38:24 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1701 Very well compiled article touching on a very sensitive issue,readind this article gave me great enlightement..... Very well compiled article touching on a very sensitive issue,readind this article gave me great enlightement…..

]]> By: parul http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1700 parul Thu, 13 May 2010 10:36:00 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1700 thanx a ton sanjib..i m really touched..i hv lost my mamaji 3days back..i really luv him n missng him very much:( bt after reading dis i hv gained alot of strength.. thanx a ton sanjib..i m really touched..i hv lost my mamaji 3days back..i really luv him n missng him very much:( bt after reading dis i hv gained alot of strength..

]]> By: Sayedul Islam http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1699 Sayedul Islam Thu, 13 May 2010 09:41:05 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1699 thank you sanjib! the article is great!! thank you sanjib! the article is great!!

]]> By: Anjali Bhargava http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1698 Anjali Bhargava Thu, 13 May 2010 09:26:59 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1698 thanx sanjib for this article ,i lost my father 4 months back on same date and today i read this article.very touching but gives lot of strength. thanx sanjib for this article ,i lost my father 4 months back on same date and today i read this article.very touching but gives lot of strength.

]]> By: Rekha Malhotra http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1697 Rekha Malhotra Thu, 13 May 2010 09:26:41 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1697 reading your article reminded me of my father-in.law and dad both..I realy miss them specially my fathr-in-law who was a constant source of inspiration for me..but destiny took them so early ..we still needed them in our life..but god needs good ppl there also with him... today is guruji's birthday I was wishing him..and was feeling so good n smiling...but looks like so much smile can be dangerous..so a little drop of tear mixed with those smiles..feeling heart full of grratitude and thanks for GURUJI... reading your article reminded me of my father-in.law and dad both..I realy miss them specially my fathr-in-law who was a constant source of inspiration for me..but destiny took them so early ..we still needed them in our life..but god needs good ppl there also with him…

today is guruji’s birthday I was wishing him..and was feeling so good n smiling…but looks like so much smile can be dangerous..so a little drop of tear mixed with those smiles..feeling heart full of grratitude and thanks for GURUJI…

]]> By: vanaja http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1695 vanaja Thu, 13 May 2010 07:52:09 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1695 Yes truely beautiful.I lost my husband five months ago. Pain is there I miss him. He was truely a good human being. With the knowledge we can go forward in life. I like your blog very much and read all of them. Thanks for posting such good thoughts for us. Yes truely beautiful.I lost my husband five months ago. Pain is there I miss him. He was truely a good human being. With the knowledge we can go forward in life. I like your blog very much and read all of them. Thanks for posting such good thoughts for us.

]]> By: Radhakrishnan Balaganesan http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1691 Radhakrishnan Balaganesan Thu, 13 May 2010 07:37:11 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1691 So nice have read your time in the words..therr were continous slides of you.. in mind while reading through the words,all shown only one thing a meditating person with tears rolling down... So nice have read your time in the words..therr were continous slides of you.. in mind while reading through the words,all shown only one thing a meditating person with tears rolling down…

]]> By: William Gano http://www.mywisdomclub.com/question-how-do-i-cope-with-the-death-of-a-loved-one/comment-page-1#comment-1427 William Gano Sat, 01 May 2010 03:27:53 +0000 http://myyogaclub.com/?p=1807#comment-1427 This is my first time i visit here. I found so many interesting stuff in your blog especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your articles, I guess I am not the only one having all the enjoyment here keep up the good work. This is my first time i visit here. I found so many interesting stuff in your blog especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your articles, I guess I am not the only one having all the enjoyment here keep up the good work.

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